DSM (II)

I believe that, beyond our ethical, formal and intellectual expression, each of us expresses ourselves profoundly through our own "Personality", understood as a mix of:

• genetics,
• temporary biological condition,
• territorial culture,
• passive pedagogical experience of child,
• traumas,

factors, all these, that induce us to act automatically, reducing our capacity for self-determination and the exercise of free will: these are insidious variables also because they are not always consciously perceived by the subject.

Our "Personality" manifests itself not only but, certainly, above all in interpersonal relationships.

In fact, if, by mere study hypothesis, we could observe from a hypothetical keyhole, locked in a room and busy with their things, a series of subjects each representative of a specific type of Personality (a Narcissist, a Schizoid, a Borderline , an Avoidant, a Paranoid, etc.), only a psychologically expert observer could effectively notice some rare noteworthy differences between all of them.

That is, each of us expresses our own "Personality";

above all in external relationships and with what is outside of oneself, rather than in the internal relationship with oneself,

in external relationships, above all in relationships with subjects, rather than in those with objects,

and in relationships with subjects, especially in non-formal relationships rather than in formal ones,

in non-formal intersubjective relationships, above all in the most non-formal ones, and, therefore, above all in sentimental ones (Partners) and, descending, in emotional ones (relatives) and even more so in emotional ones (friendships, artistic experiences , sports, etc.).

Well, to try to understand each Personality I believe there are 3 factors to take into consideration:

• the complex of skills and incompetences of the subject: there are subjects who seem to lack innate skills above all from a social, communicative and emotional-affective-sentimental point of view,
• the rigidity of the subject's conduct: there are subjects who, even in the presence of inevitably changing contexts, they seem to mechanically reiterate the same conduct, as if they never learned from their (inevitables) mistakes or as if it was not a priority for them to learn from their mistakes,
• the complex of the subject's needs: there are subjects who seem to have like prioritary, fundamental and indispensable needs, quantitatively very narrow needs, unconventional needs, and needs that marginalizing or even or do not contemplate at all the classic fundamental social, communicative and emotional-affective-sentimental needs.

Hodgepodge.

• One hundred armchairs them don't make a sofa.

• The effective medicines never have the taste of black cherry.

• If we were to objectively analyze God with the tools of the DSM, a devastating diagnosis would emerge it.

• If you are smart, you play according to the cards that you has in your hand; but, if you're not autistic, you play also according to the players that you has at your table.

• Love does not heal: it works with children and with some animals, but it never works with human adults.

• We learn the really important things late, when we no longer need them.

• Never ask the mule to gallop like a horse and the horse to carry the pack like a mule.

• If you reject the courtship of a married or engaged woman or if you are having dinner with a woman and do not pay her bill or if you point out to a woman a mistake she has made, then be prepared for their resentment.

• Women often cooperate but often lie.

• Avoid Introverts: otherwise, you will waste time and waste their time.

• Never mistake an Introvert for a Shy.

• Avoid the Envious, as they will not just envy you but will actively ruin your successes and relationships.

• Avoid touchy ones.

• in Italy, approximately from 4% to 10% of those born are not the children of the one who recognizes them as Father.

• With maturity, send those who deserve it to hell because you might no longer have the time to do it.

• The Italian is only happy when he puts his feet under the table.