- formally, very mature, (but, substantially, childish),
- formally, very fascinating (but, substantially, clumsy),
- formally, very uninhibited (but, substantially, rarely spontaneus),
- formally, very self-confident (but, substantially, often uncomfortable).
- formally, very indifferent (but, substantially, irritated by the interaction with others),
- formally, very independent (but, substantially, continuously aimed at research of the other's intention, for preventively evading it),
- formally, very self-controlled (but, substantially, prone to impulsive reactive acts).
- stereotyped, not spontaneous;
- dichotomous, extremes, devoid of modulation;
- with a strong internal contradiction (the purpose theoretical and pompously proclaimed and prosecuted, contradicts diametrically the purpose true and clumsily ill-concealed);
- inappropriate, unsolicited from the objective needs of the context.
|Tamara de Lempicka: "Portrait de Ira P." (1923)|
- the schizoid personality has a much higher difficulty on referral to a Psychologist or a to a Psychiatrist: a rigid difficulty (often insurmountable) on to talk about himself with others and on to describe to the others its own emotions;
- the schizoid personality (that one hard and pure, rigidly structured!) has a very low percentage of incidence in the world population, compared to that of almost all the other "personalities", percentage that I consider to estimate realistically around the 1-2 %.
- marked intolerance at the eye contact, active and passive. Very rarely his glance is addressed to the others. When looks the others, his glance is shifty or impersonal and directed to the face: if directed at the eyes (rarely), is a oblique glance, tense and disenchanted, that lingers for no more than 1-2 consecutive seconds.
- very marked intolerance to the physical contact, active and passive (especially, when the physical contact is very light and slight!), with manifestations of immediate retraction or fear when she is touched. However, though very rarely, in a sort of involuntary and unconscious "black-out of own body's awareness", she can have totally unexpected episodes of physical contact active and strongly uninhibited, or may not notice to show parts (accidentally discovered), evidently intimate, of her clothing or of body.
- rigid demarcation and unyielding defense of the own physical space (a interpersonal space such as to never allow an intimate distance). If can not secure for herself an adequate interpersonal distance, she tends to show own side or turn one's back on, in front at the interlocutor, or tends to sit and curl up.
- standing, with a potential interlocutor that are approaching, tendency to join hands or to retain an any object between both hands or to put your hands on your thighs or in your pocket; in any case, all this in order to have excuse for not having to shake hands with at this potential interlocutor. If she is forced to shake hands at the interlocutor, looks elsewhere or extends much his arm, but keeping the trunk far behind, and, in any case, holding the hand concave.
- recurrent tendency to stay alone, sitting, longly in silence and in a state of ordered quiet (if she is sitting in front of interlocutors, tends to have own arms crossed and/or own legs crossed, and/or the elevation of the two upper epiphysis, with lowering the neck and the head, or tends to sit slantwise, orienting his legs at 45° to the interlocutor).
- discomfort and anxiety in having to frequenting crowded environments.
- tendency to sneak off in front at the human relationships.
- recurrent need of take clear-cut and absolute pauses (of a few hours or of a few days) in socialization, as for to "recharge" himself and for to focus exclusively on own inner world: a classic behavior of this type is that of to interrupt of the receptivity of own cell phone and/or to absent himself suddenly and unpredictably, taking refuge in strictly private places or in unknown places (making lose own tracks). The very few married schizoids and the schizoids living with their parents often they tend to reserve yourself an own additional room with strictly exclusive access, or to purchase (or rent) a further (also small) apartment to be used as a "shelter".
- recurring composure and rigid self-control (absolute absence of facial mimicry - so-called "poker face" - and of manual micro gestures); however, very brief but acute and impulsive behaviors of snobbery, impatience, retreat, fugue.
- very wide movements of arms and of legs (never spontaneous, always mechanical and almost robotic, with a rather martial gait), with stiffness and absence or shortage of flexion in the elbows, in the knees and in the torso.
- tendency to walk with head well erect, or with the head much tilted forward (but keeping your back straight).
- walking putting at the ground, above all, the toes of foot (and very little the heel): so-called "toe-walking". From sitting, rests on the ground above all the heels. In any case, poor contact with the ground.
- preconceived and wrong-headed distrust of others.
- cheeky ostentation of own operational autonomy and of own self-confidence, with reaction of undisguised and proud impatience before the proffers of cooperation of others.
- blatant and theatrical flaunting of emotional coldness, of snobbish aloofness and nonchalance, but, in reality (though silently and secretly), absolutely tireless and obsessive in to monitor others's behaviors (as a sort of CCTV-closed circuit surveillance camera), in order to prevent their relational attempts.
- cynicism somewhat smug.
- secretly envious (highly dismissive of the success of others; strongly tending to ridicule the failure of others).
- resistance (silent, omissive and obstinate) in not wanting to perform unwanted obligations, or in the not take unforeseen responsibilities or into not answer to direct questions that require an answer clear and source of commitment.
- oscillation between behaviors of blatant ostentatition of superiority, arrogance, haughtiness, pompousness, snobbery, sufficiency, boredom, huff, irritation, snooty contempt, almost of disgust, and behaviors defiladed and a bit disconsolate, dejected and disheartened, which occasionally becomes of respect, of obsequious and, unexpectedly, even of deference.
- slight but constant formal inadequacy. If she is kind (rarely), is so in a stereotypical way, hastily, with affectation and emotional distance.
- serious difficulties in expressing verbal or gestural delicacy, and at unease when is being treated with verbal or gestural delicacy.
- rapid oscillations between virginal or prudish attitudes (sober composure like that of a convent-school girl, a nineteenth-century teenage girl's sexual prudery a bit like that of certain goody-goody girls of a novel by Jane Austen, clothing distinctly formal, austere, colorless, vaguely outmoded, androgynous and sloppy), and seductive or uninhibited behaviors (clothing, makeup and hairstyle, extremely sophisticated and captivating, feminine, fashionable, coquettish, vain and alluring, eccentrically seductive, flashy).
- behaviour of obstinate reluctance and of capillary subtraction at the more physiological and respectful intersexual dialectic (schizoid behaviour that the not schizoids, inesorably misunderstands, wrongly, as strong virginal modesty and extreme sense of sexual decency).
- facing an emotive, affective and sentimental direct manifestations of others, she has very inexorable attitudes of elusion, of rationalization, of intellectualization, of disapproval, of derision, of intolerance, of contempt (...and, even, of panic and of fugue!). Astutely, she always tends to accredit in others the belief that their emotive or affective or sentimental direct manifestations are, objectively and inexorably, illegitimate or unjustified or exaggerated or inappropriate or immoral or mischievous or instrumental or untimely or unclear or un-serious or childish or in bad faith or ironic (etc.); therefore, she always tries stubbornly any pretext to convince others of own objective impossibility of evaluate these manifestations on their merit and on their objective substance (cowardly trying to speddling as objective an impossibility instead merely presumed and subjective, and downloading on the others the responsibility for this own alleged impossibility), in order of not to show its profound disregard for human relationship in general, but, above all, in order of not having to refuse, directly and in the merit, the emotional, affective and sentimental direct manifestations, and, thus, really get in human contact with each other, albeit temporarily.
- strong reservedness (which, at times, results in rigid and impermeable secretness!) respect to own privacy, even with reference to details clearly marginal or utterly insignificant.
- touchiness (secret, but profound).
- demeanor of seriousness and maturity ostentatious (almost vaguely hieratic and solemn), not infrequently so redundant and inappropriate as to result rather ridiculous.
- a very few initiatives of irony (almost always, with a cynical, derisive and sarcastic background, extremely steeped of perfidy). Not collects ever the irony of others. Complete absence of self-irony!
- smile almost completely absent; absolutely rare laughter (entirely unexpected and unpredictable, very tender and delicate, but ridiculously childish, through clenched teeth).
- absolutely rare explosions of excitation, enthusiasm and euphoria (entirely unexpected and unpredictable, much short but vibrant, really amazing, very naive and that reminiscent of those typical of the first adolescence, grossly disproportionate and exaggerated compared to the their probable cause, and in inconceivable logical contradiction with the previous behavior of absolute detachment and indifference).
- speech rare, slow, tiring, weary, sometimes preceded by a initial short exhalation (as of one who feels compelled to carry out, for the umpteenth time, a wasteful, useless and redundant activity), concise, laconic, pragmatic, always assertive, never interrogative and with late replies, without tonal variations, in tone medium-low, sometime with a cadence slightly singsong, vaguely admonitory and professorial, with stereotyped, formal, trite, rhetorical and of circumstance phraseology.
- limited vocabulary (alogia), poor of terminological variety.
- poor descriptive ability (especially in describing emotional and artistic experiences).
- difficulty, discouragement and irritation to thinking in metaphor, in use of symbolic models, in understanding of verbal nuances or of puns or of verbal innuendo and allusions or of figurative or surreal or paradoxical language or of idiomatic phrases or of subtle irony, with a certain tendency to interpret literally the phraseology of others.
- ease in carrying out of solitary and/or of executive activities.
- mnemonic skill higher than average, sometimes even formidable.
- dichotomous thinking. Analysis and judgment always rotate between two opposites ("tertium non datur"), and every time that she is required a gradation in analysis and in judgement, she believes that these gradations not are important or are useless or misleading (etc.). [This rigidly dichotomous structure of Schizoid and its inability to grasp the possible nuances of the others's analysis and judgment, in the long run, induces the Schizoid to a progressive cognitive detachment from reality, and ie, often: 1) to analyze and to judge the reality in very net and sharp terms (when the analysis originates from her...), and, on the other hand, to believe that the great part of reality is not objectively analysable and judgeable (when the analysis comes from the others and it is different from its own...), 2) to perceive the analyzes and judgments of others, when articulated and complex and not coinciding with the own, as an expression of speciousness and captiousness, and then almost like a treacherous personal attack at own intellectual dignity.].
- parsimony in the spending on services and on consumables or perishable goods. Spending sometimes conspicuous for durable goods.
- frugality in the feeding.
- slender body constitution.
- long-limbed hands, very slender and long fingers, thin wrists.
- cold hands, with a mechanical and little progressive tactility.
- absent sweating.
Much of the life of the schizoid is occupied by the adoption of these measures, applied progressively in the following order:
- the remoteness (1st)
- the surveillance (2nd),
- the delimitation (3rd)
- the deterrence (4th).
- the escape (principally, physically moves away; but, even, pretends to not understand the context or, suddenly and radically, change the speech, etc.).
|Hans Rudolf Giger: "Work n.217, ELP II" (1973)|
- NARCISSISM (grandiose image of himself, absent empathy, cynism, ostentation of indifference, superiority, arrogance, contempt, haughtiness and snobbery),
- AUTISM (intolerance at the eye contact, intolerance to the physical contact, difficulty to understanding the psyche of others).
A mixture in which, anyway, each of two those elements justifies the other, and, in turn, resends back to him, in a vicious loop, intended to self-feed himself. A fusion through which the schizoid seals his fate of unknowable and ineffable monad (that all observes, but always unnoticed by everyone). However, even before a hard shell, a defensive personality, perched, wrapped in a tangle of rusty wire and quintessential of anti-empathy, structured to reject, you can see a tender core, a very fragile soul, as stubbornly attached to an infant stage and in eternal waiting of a refund that she unconsciously know that will never come (as the pension of the "Colonel", in "El coronel no tiene quien le escriba" by Gabriel García Márquez).
- The Shy/Avoidant/Neurotic is the one who aspires to relate to others, but that avoids the interpersonal relationship for fear of being rejected or of appear inadequate (typical case is that of the Depressed). Conversely, the Introvert does not aspire to relate to others (a typical case is that of the Schizoid).
- The Neurotic perceives the reality correctly, but struggles to adapt to this. Conversely, the Psychotic has difficulty already in the first stage, that of reading of the reality (a reality that in fact perceives altered).
- The Shy/Avoidant/Neurotic has known the Love, but then lost it (for example, for a mourning or for a surrender). Conversely, the Schizoid has never known the Love.
- ostentation of autonomy and of self-confidence (which here becomes rigid operational autonomy, with reluctance to delegate the carrying out of activities).
- parsimony excessive and incongruous than the real economic capacity.
- tendency to accumulate the most different objects and goods, also irrespective of their actual practical use and even if objectively no longer usable (obsolete, damaged, malfunctioned, etc...).
- enhancement and mythologizing of labor and of all economically productive activity, with correlated devaluation of abstract thinking, hobbies, sport, religious activities, existential and philosophical reflection and meditation, gossip, ecc....
- perfectionism and sterile attention to details, also if details objectively irrelevant and also at the expense of neglecting the understanding and the care of the globality of the problem.
- stubbornness in pursuit of a method, even if it is clearly not optimal.
Sometimes, the schizoid personality may present paranoid traits. In this case, there will be an accentuation of the following schizoid characters:
- susceptibility (which here becomes rancor, recurrent and persistent).
- attitude secretly vigilant (which here becomes suspiciousness, explicit and obsessive, unbreakable, self-referential and refractory to every contrary objective evidence).
- reservedness tending to the secrecy (which here becomes secrecy, preordained and pervasive, also with regard to informations not related to the own private sphere).
- the schizoid does not aspire to own people, but rather, the objects,
- the schizoid is very unlikely which may to be afraid of remain alone.
Often, a schizoid personality can be confused and misunderstood with a so called Asperger syndrome. In fact, the differences between these two psychic conditions are somewhat subtle, and even an expert could may find difficult to distinguish, specially in childhood and in pre-adolescence, between an Asperger and a Schizoid.
- a very limited range of expressive and emotional features (a not brilliant prosody, a marked absence of facial and bodily mimicry),
- a certain unconcealed intellectual presumption and a more or less intentional egocentrism,
- a recurrent need to make (more or less long, but absolute and clear) breaks in socialization (physically withdrawing himself in solitude).
- has a glance maybe not determined and watchful, but often fixed and persistent,
- has a more pronounced intolerance to physical contact,
- has a very genuine, deep and aware intent to base one's conduct on strong ethical principles (intent and principles which often makes her behaviours markedly honest and moral, but that, however, it does not prevent him from appearing, unsuspiciously, rather ungainly, tactless, indelicate, rude, self-centered, selfish, a bit measly and small-minded, amoral, almost cynic, even cruel),
- even if it is endowed with a strong ethica, he have a sense of the prudery absolutely bizarre, incostant and incoherent. For example, him could be scandalized from a non-conforming (even if only slightly) context to the his religious precepts, but, soon after, introduce, seriously, a exaggeredly intimate and inappropriate talk about the sexuality or jokingly make a sexual allusions of spine-chilling rudeness, in both cases placing the interlocutor in very hard and intolerable embarrassment,
- has a slight but genuine aspiration to the socialization, aspiration, however, frustrated by: 1) a structural "Mind-blindness" and, therefore, a severe shortage in the so-called "Theory of the mind", ie in the ability to recognize the mental states (personality, previous personal story, momentary emotional state, conscious and unconscious intentions, desires, beliefs, aspirations, fears, etc.) of himself and, above all, of the others (with, in particular, the naive inability to read the others's malicious intentions, and, on the other hand, the almost paranoid suspicion in front to the others's conducts even when this others's conducts are clearly devoid of any malice and instrumentality), 2) a structural shortage of so-called "Empathy", ie in the to participate at the others's psychic state and in the to share these psychic states with them, and in the to realize which may be the effects of his conduct on others. The Asperger has the same structural (and dramatic) shortage of "Empathy" of Schizoid, but has a "mindblindness" deeper than that of the Schizoid,
- has a substantial disinterestedness for the conventional and ceremonial forms of courtesy (hints of greeting, verbal greeting, handshake or hug, interest for health and others life, thanksgiving, take-leave, etc.),
- accepts the conversation; but when this assumes the tones of a chitchat about the more and the less without a practical purpose and, in any case, when this is prolonged, often him limiteds himself to merely passive listening or to the use of sketchy expressions of formal participation and of formal assent, not caring too much to hide signs of boredom and of impatience, and fails him to hide his hurry to want conclude the conversation.
- has a voice with a volume often quite high, but with a tonality so low and a rhythm so monotonous, so rectilinear and devoid of modulations, so robotic and funereal, to lead to a soporific and pseudo-hypnotic effect. Slowness and monotony of prosody of the Asperger is such that, if it tells you about the recent death of both his parents crushed under a truck or about its win of one-billion-dollar in the lottery, the Asperger will always use the same tone of voice (low), at a steady rhythm (slow), and sometimes with a conclusion of his phrase hurried and incomplete or slowed and emphasized. Every attempt by the Asperger to diversify hues and rhythm to her speech, will create, in the interlocutor, an immediate feeling of strong inappropriateness, of clumsy imitation of stereotypes, of not spontaneity, of forcing, of redundancy and sometimes (frankly) of comicalness,
- often has a pedantic, stilted, professorial and ex cathedra attitude, like of someone whose time is more precious than that of others or like of who that know-it-all and of who which believes that for him is almost obvious to have very little to learn from others, tending to take for granted the (asserted) superiority of own competences even debasing (in a very direct way and public!) the competence of their interlocutor (even when it all involves, blatantly, a very profound humiliation of this same interlocutor),
- has a certain tendency to assume a staid, phlegmatic and self-controlled profile or stereotyped behaviours (that are the clear result of an attempt to not committing impulsive gaffes). Conversely, when Asperger does not have the time or concentration needed to self-discipline and to gradually deploy its programmed social behavior or when the approach to the contingent social situation and to its context requires a high capacity (in terms of quality and of speed) of analysis, of non-verbal reading and of abstraction, the Asperger can to appear socially very clumsy and can make inconceivable and devastating gaffes (atrocious gaffes!!!) or can incurring and stumbling (even in rapid succession) coarser blunders and misunderstandings, often without minimally understand (not even retrospectively) the merit of these his crass social errors (or, when he understands it, producing further gaffes, in the clumsy attempt to amend those committed previously). These Asperger's stumbles and missteps they can happen, basically, for two reasons: 1) the Asperger is able to lie, and of continue to lie even if clearly aware that it has been discovered; but, on the other hand, it is capable of telling the truth without the slightest inhibition, even when it involves a severe and very deep injury to the dignity of others! 2) the Aspergers often thinks aloud (and, not by chance, one of the first tips that the Psychologists give to the Aspergers is of "count up to one hundred before talking"),
- on attempt to not committing impulsive gaffes and in order to become finally socially accepted and ultimately compliant to the expectations of others, the Asperger often becomes an observers didactically attentive (a bit like the Generals of Kim Jong-un when they obsessively take notes on their notebook) and he copy the behaviours of others that he feel like optimal (the coping's activity of the best social behaviors of others, carries a portion consisting in the lives of Aspergers). As result of this his practice, the Asperger, sometimes, in a loudly paradoxical fashion, he end up to perceiving himself as specially capable readers of the personality of others people and as acute predictors of intentions of other people. But, on the contrary, a bit as in the case of Schizoid, the social observation of the Asperger is structurally dry and mechanical, naive and schematic, quantitatively very abundant but qualitatively highly poor and childish, maybe careful with the details, but unable to read this details together and to drop them in the whole context,
- has an childish relationship with money: the subject is often not generous with others, but for himself tends to a marked prodigality, especially for the purchase of objects of an instrumental nature (mechanical, electronic, ...),
- has a tendency to cultivate assiduously few hobbies (often of a technical and instrumental nature),
- appears patently reassured and comforted from the relationship, from the possession and from the tactile contact with the objects, especially if are mechanical or electronic tools,
- has a marked, resoundingly exaggerated, unjustified and inconferent slowness and methodicalness (at the limits of rituality) in the in the approach, in the performance and in the solution of intellectual activities (even with regard to understanding and solving problems of trivial banality), with almost total lack of intuitive skills and of synthesis (every problem requires a prior concentration and an accurate examination of its entirety). Therefore, him will reach almost always an exact and very accurate result (if referred to an activity purely executive), or perhaps an inaccurate result (if referred to an abstract activity); but, in any case, often will a result achieved belatedly,
- has serious difficulties in carrying out several tasks at the same time (so called multitasking),
- has, on average, a robust body constitution with a skull basically rather wide and brachycephalic,
- has a marked slowness, a certain asymmetry, and a poor fluidity in the bodily mobility,
- has a poor ability of orientation in the space,
- has problems with the circadian rhythm wakefulness-sleep.
If the Schizoid has contempt for others (and even a thread of fear of others), the Asperger has a substantial disinterest for others.
If the Schizoid does not try in the least to overcome his contempt of others (and his fear of others), the Asperger tries (even repeatedly and insistently) to overcome his indifference for others but he does this almost always to his rigid rules, terms and conditions (in the interpersonal relationship, the Asperger believes to know when to learn from the other and when to teach the other) and, therefore, with an lack of intellectual and emotional reciprocity which makes him perceive as pretentious and arrogant and, therefore, socially unattractive (the Asperger tends to justify or minimize one's relational errors, but also to emphasize the same type of mistakes if are committed against him).
Definitely, in my humble opinion, I think that not a few Aspergers are also partially schizoids (and viceversa). We could say, simplifying, that, like the Schizoid, even the Asperger has a psychic base constituted by a mixture of Narcissism and Autism. However, while in the Schizoid the narcissistic component prevails over the autistic one, in the Asperger the distribution of this mix appears exactly inverse and, therefore, the autistic component prevails over the narcissistic one.
Not lacking famous people who, I believe, can be considered like (plausible) schizoids (not coincidentally, almost exclusively males or persons belonging to the Anglo-Saxon and northern-European culture), very often characterized by misanthropy and/or by asexuality:
Diogenes of Sinope (first exponent of philosophical "cynicism", he devoted his life to preaching the schizoid virtues of self-control and self-sufficiency-autarchy),
Michelangelo Buonarroti ("I'm always alone, I go little around and I do not speak to a person"; he never had wife neither any one sentimental adventure, and he was known for his legendary and absolute avarice and frugality),
Blaise Pascal ("tout le malheur des hommes vient d’une seule chose, qui est de ne savoir pas demeurer en repos dans une chambre" / "all the misfortune of men come from just one thing, which is to not know remain at rest in a room").
Vincent Van Gogh,
Maximilien de Robespierre,
George Bernard Shaw,
Paul Cézanne (suffered from strong Haphephobia, the fear of being touched. He had given instructions to her maid of not approach him never and, if touched from someone, became furious),
Henry Cavendish, (taciturn, asocial and secret - he rarely publishied his works- , he communicated with his own maids only through annotations on tickets. When, one day, a maid entered erroneously in his room, he remained so upset to dismiss her from work instantly. Later, he built mezzanines and stairs to go from room to room without being seen. There is a total absence of reports on his sentimental life).
Howard Phillips Lovecraft,
Philip K. Dick (self-diagnosed as "schizoid personality". Besides, Dick's mother was cold and distant, had little capacity for empathy and inability to care for the twin sister of Philip, Jane, that died, shortly after birth, due to malnutrition),
Jean-Paul Sartre ("l'enfer, c'est les autres"/"Hell, is other people"),
Emil Cioran ("Love - a meeting of two saliva ... All feelings draw their absolute from misery of glands". "The real contact between beings is established only with the silent presence, with the apparent non-communication, with the mysterious exchange and without words". "I despise the Christian because he is able to love his fellow man closely. To me, for rediscover the man, it would take the Sahara").
Georges Simenon (Had a mother, daughter of a suicide father, who he define like "insensitive to the emotions of others". Also the Simenon's daughter is died suicide, as his maternal grandfather),
Carl Gustav Jung,
Jack Kerouac (honorably discharged from the US Navy, after only 8 days of service, for "schizoid personality"),
Syd Barrett (traditionally mistaken for an Asperger, him, however, showed the clearest symptoms of schizoid or of schizotypal disorder, symptoms albeit exacerbated by continued use of drugs),
- Sherlock Holmes,
- Wednesday Addams ("the Addams family"),
- Data ("Star Trek"), not by chance an android,
- Gregory House ("House M. D."),
- Mr. James Stevens ("The remains of the day"),
- many "superheroes" loners (Superman, Batman, etc.).
- very traditional fathers, physically (and emotionally) absent, and mothers very bad caregivers with very little ability to care of their children (therefore, of not-autonomous persons par excellence) and not able to respond coherently to the their emotional demands. Therefore, for belittle the seriousness of this their very serious pedagogical deficiencies (emotional, affective and sentimental), for to conceal their utter inability of solve these their chronic faults, both (father and mother) tend to diminish the importance of emotions, of affectivity, of feelings and of human relationship (and, therefore, of everything that their, parents, do not know provide or do not want provide), and are selfishly interested in promoting, in their children, the more rapid achievement of the maximum emotional self-control and emotional self-sufficiency, maliciously smuggling this two targets for pretense maturity and adult autonomy. A mother, at the same time, heavily obtrusive, with a marked tendency to projecting the own frustrations and the own expectations on her daughter, and to suppressing the personality of own daughter for groped to replace it with own project of personality (also this maternal intrusiveness so overwhelming, it inhibits the daughter and she induces it to repress own personality). Therefore, a mother-daughter relationship always swinging between an excess of absence (rejection) and an excess of presence (intrusiveness).
- childish abuse (sexual or physical or psychological).
- families with very poor internal communication and external sociability.
- cultural and ethnic patterns (families with rigid religiosity, families from northern Europe or Sino-Japanese area, or rural areas or areas with a low population density or mountain areas or island areas). For example: 1) there are cultures of the distance (such as the Sino-Japanese, the Indian, the Anglosaxon, the North-european, etc.) and cultures of the proximity (such as the Arab, the Latin, the South American, etc.). The first are qualified by a relevant interpersonal distance, such as to reduce the possibilities of body contact (each contact and reduction of the proxemic space are perceived as forms of intrusion and lack of respect). In the seconds, instead, the interpersonal distance is reduced, and the opportunities for physical contact increase (distance is evaluated in negative terms, such as coldness and hostility) 2) there are cultures of the word (such as those of Africa, of South America, Latin) and cultures of silence (such as Japanese, Lappish, Indian of America, etc.). Among the first, the silence is perceived as a threat. The seconds, instead, are marked by long pauses of silence (silence intended as a sign of trust and harmony) 3) there are cultures of the emotionality and of the expression of emotions (such as the Latin, Arab, etc.) in which the expression of emotions is understood as a sign of sincerity and will to cooperation, and in which the emotional coldness is understand as a sign of distrust and contempt. On the other hand, there are cultures (such as the North European, the Anglo-Saxon, the Sino-Japanese, etc.) in which the expression of one's emotions is seen as a vulgar, inestetic and intrusive behavior.
|Grant Wood: "American gothic" (1930), detail|
- the frequent isolation and, in any case, the having interpersonal relationships without emotional involvement, ends up producing on the schizoid a progressive loss of social skills and a reduced intellectual growth. The long-term asociality ends up depriving the schizoid of an incredible amount of experience and, therefore, of many intellectual stimuli. I believe, trivially, that about 7 billion human beings live on the face of planet Earth and that, at least on a probabilistic level, we all have much more to learn from 7 billion human beings than not from ourselves (we are only 1). Moreover, I believe that we human beings are Mammals and not Reptiles. Unlike the Reptiles, the Mammals generally breastfeed and care for the puppies. In addition, we Humans, unlike many others Mammals, we have no claws and we also have a very refined tactile ability (precisely aimed at a special activity of care of our puppies). In other words, we Humans are morphologically structured for sociality, and sociality allows us to increase our intellectual competences exponentially; rejecting sociality means rejecting our intellectual capacity for learning and gradually separates us from our corporeity and its potential,
- the repeated use of emotional detachment as a defensive tactical technique, generate on the schizoid sever growing inability to recognize the most basic occasions of gratification and pleasure and, therefore, to enjoy them, slipping into a sensory lethargy (anhedonia),
- the stubborn social isolation and the lack of sentimental relationships, causes to the schizoid first an impoverishment and, then, a total loss of the social (and economic!) protection network (children do not exist, a partner do not exist, relatives are removed, friends do not exist),
- the Schizoid, progressively, builds a world (fantasy life - schizoid fantasy - mind wandering) where she attempts to live, albeit in simulated mode and more deadened, the emotions that he can not live outside, in real life. In own inner world so constructed, the schizoid creates a story, a theatrical subject, suitable to vent (in harmless mode) all his old anger as well as his megalomania. To achieve this goal, the Schizoid: 1) on one side, relives its real and true story of life, however creating opposing and winning outcomes and endings with respect to those actually lived and unbearably loser, 2) on the other side, to deaden the loneliness, creates also a totally imaginary place, an its own alternate and parallel reality, populated by characters result of his pure imagination, as if he was a character in a fantasy novel, in a pattern typically pre-adolescential. In essence, the virtual schizoid inner world it seems to me fulfill a function in half between that of certain video games of war and that of certain television soap operas.
- the tendency to look for solitary jobs and as far possible without relationships with the public of users or of customers (eg, Librarian, Night Watchman, Writer, Painter, Sculptor, Computer Technician, Warehouse Worker, Laboratory Technician, etc.), or the tendency not to take decision-making roles on work or not to be part of specific work groups or to accept only purely executive and eminently bureaucratic assignments, often leads the schizoid to not excel in hierarchical working environments, reaching levels lower than those that its competence would suggest,
- the schizoid ends up perceiving oneself as unreal and dissociated from one's self (depersonalization, well described by Jean Paul Sartre in "La nausée"),
- the schizoid ends up perceiving the world and the external reality as unreal (derealisation),
- the schizoid often falls in depression, between 35 and 50 years of age,
- the schizoid girl, albeit obsessed by the compulsory and constant need to avoid any physical and emotional relationship, you may feel impelled to find a partner by effect of the sexual urges (in adolescence) or by effect of the need to guarantee itself a financial protection or a social respectability (in mature age). In these cases, I think that the schizoid tends to join in couple preferably with men who, for character traits (schizoid, avoidant, obsessive-compulsive, paranoid), or for reasons of psychological subjection (much younger or ugly or of social class lower) or to limitations of physical type (much older) or for reasons of geographical distance (men residing or working away) or for their civil status (married or cohabiting), are assumed to be incapable to take or give (actively and spontaneously) physical and/or emotional contacts, and, at the same time, they are capable to accept (passively and uncritically) the occasional request of contact physical and/or emotional of schizoid. In addition, the need to avoid direct physical contact, in my opinion can tilt the schizoid towards atypical forms of sexuality, such as voyeurism and fetishism. Likewise, the lack of sense of identity combined with asexuality, I think that can form a logical antecedent of predisposition to bland bisexuality,
- bizarrely, the Schizoid girl will attract, a lot more, the Depressed/Avoidant man and the Histrionic man: therefore (paradoxically), precisely those men who, more than any other, she as Schizoid can not tolerate because of their constant emotional demands! The Depressed/Avoidant and the Histrionic are attracted by the emotive self-control, by the autonomy and by the self-sufficiency of Schizoid, and, that is, precisely by those features that they, Depressed/Avoidant and Histrionic, do not have (the Depressed/Avoidant and the Histrionic they can not hold back their emotions and end up participate at the emotions of others; in particular, the Depressed/Avoidant needs a woman to love and whence be loved; the Histrionic needs a women who him applaud). In addition, particularly the Depressed/Avoidant, being very emotionally needy, unknowingly tends to misunderstand (wrongly!) the asexuality of the schizoid, mistaking it for strong sexual morality and extreme virginal decency and, so, he ends to build an image of Schizoid interlocutor as of a potentially ideal person to meet own deep sentimental and romantic needs. Well: the Histrionic, after being unappreciated by the Schizoid, he does not persists in relational inquiry, feeling the contempt of the Schizoid as referring to only one of its many possible spectators (because the Histrionic tends always to direct own attention, simultaneously, to more people, to a community of people) and, therefore, he will appeal elsewhere, in search of a new audience. Conversely, the Depressed/Avoidant people feel the contempt that the Schizoid reserve to him as a personal injury (because the Depressed people will appeal always only to a single individual, and also because the contempt of Schizoid coincides with the vision of person of little value that the Depressed has of himself). Therefore, the schizoid reaction induces the Depressed/Avoidant to believe that he not had expressed with adequate power and enough sincerity his sentimental and romantic intent (the depressed person believes always that a deep love ends up making always breach even in the toughest interlocutor) and, therefore, pushes the depressed people to persevere, ever more intensely, in own relational request with the Schizoid, to show more and more keenly his intent sentimental and romantic, thus triggering a loop, an escalation, increasingly exacerbated, between the propositions of own emotional demands and the schizoid reactions of irritation and contempt. For this reason, I believe that a true Schizoid, a pure and hard Schizoid, give the "worst" of herself in the presence of an Depressed/Avoidant subject of the opposite sex: this, precisely, because she feels that the Depressed/Avoidant people are the subjects potentially more threatening and dangerous for his schizoid emotive quietness. On the other side, for the Depressed/Avoidant or for the Dependent affective people, the encounter with a Schizoid turns out as an event undoubtedly very inspiring and instructive under an intellectual profile, but emotionally devastating and traumatic.
- if you think about it well and without intellectual prejudice, the rejection of sociality and the rejection of sex (the two cornerstones of schizoid personality) can explain many many cases of (alleged) "religious vocations", especially those of type monastic or cloistered or ascetic.
Ultimately, after trying to explain (first of all to myself) the schizoid psychology, I'm tempted to explain to non-schizoids (first of all to myself) how to approach a Schizoid and what are the limits of a human relationship with a Schizoid (schizoid that, from now on, I will call "She").
- First of all, we must carefully avoid groped to establish eye contact with She: means you must absolutely avoid of looking She in the eyes.
- Then, you have to avoid to get too close to She (a distance greater than 2 meters will be very welcome to She) and, even more, never to touch She (never groped to tighten the hands of She).
- Stoically, endure his recurrent (and often endless) silences. The deafening and rigid his silence that you perceive as indifference, it really will be the only his mode, however absurd and totally paradoxical, of to show you (be it moderate) respect and acceptance (if She will find you only slightly unpleasant, do not never doubt that it will begin to snort and to show, with theatrical ostentation, all the his contempt).
- Never ask at She anything about his private life (even trivial details): otherwise, you will be branded from She as a irreducible nosy and She will put you, immediately and permanently, at distance.
- Apply, with She, an infinite dilution of the amount and of intensity of the own relational initiatives and even more of the own affective impulses, according to a logic that reminiscent, much closely, that of homeopathic medicine.
- Not hope too much of receive any one manifestation of affection from part of She. Even if you were to be the subject of some (rare) manifestation of emotional attention on her part (it can happen...), you need know that this manifestation will be followed (as soon as possible) by another manifestation not only diametrically contrary, but also greater than the previous and deliberately blatant and scenographic.
- Every love affair with She is doomed to fail inexorably. The only game that you can hope to play with She is an sorte of infinite match of chess for correspondence: the distance between a move and another will be intolerably enormous. Will a match without winners ... and with two losers (both asleep in front at the chessboard).
Finally, I want to make clear that I think obviously that not all the so called "schizoids" are 100% schizoids; but, that does not mean that the attempts to identification that I have adopted here are useless or, worse, misleading.
"Je songe à tous ces imbéciles qui s'embrassent et je me dis que, vraiment, on a autre chose à faire dans l'existence"
["I reflect on all these imbeciles who they embrace and I say at me that, really, there something else to do in the existence"]